Totally off topic question,

[Julie]

Hi

Can you give me your opnions on this, if someone told you they were getting married and only inviting immediate family, who do you think this would include besides mum,ad, brothers and sisters, would it include Grandparents do you think ?
Thanks

[princess peach]

My opinion,Most definatley grandparents would be included

[country boy]

Yes definitely

[Nimrod]

No doubt about it,without them there would be zero attendance.

[Jool]

No immediate family would be the generation above that of the couple getting married......but grandparents SHOULD be invited of course.

[Julie]

Thanks all

[Retro P]

Unless of course the grandparents have seriously pi**ed of the couple or some other member of the family, petty I know but this does happen, also depends on who exactly is doing the inviting and in some cases who is paying !

[karandjon]

We got married in Africa, but my dad really wanted to give me away, and when he couldnt fly (for medical reasons), he wanted another 'blessing' when we arrived back home so he could do it. it was a small do for immediate family only and it definitely included the grandparents.

[pete_l]

if someone told you they were getting married and only inviting immediate family, who do you think this would include besides mum,ad, brothers and sisters

I don't think you can generalise. It's entirely possible that the people getting married have never met all their grandparents, so it would be wrong to automatically assume they were part of an immediate family. Likewise uncles and aunts. Some might be more "immediate" than others - for instance if they lived next door and you saw them every day they'd me a lot more immediate than others might have emigrated 50 years ago and only send a card at christmas.
If the people getting married have kids (either as a couple or from previous liasons) they should be included, however.

[RichardCoeurdeLion]

I've probably got it wrong, Julie, but is this what has happened?

your grandchild is getting married.
The word on the streets is immediate family only
You've assumed (IMHO naturaly) this would include you
You're not invited and feel hurt.
If I'd been close to the grandchild, I would too.
Still it's their day and they can do what they like.
Don't know the exact circumstances, of course, but it seems a bit sad.
It's too late now, the damage has been done.

A wedding wouldn't be a wedding without some sort of aggro.

You could just turn up uninvited, make a scene, have it filmed and send it to You've been framed.
You could casualy mention that the bequest to the grandchild in your will has been canceled.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NB_XDUb_tG0

[wendyakemp]

My neice did exactly this, didn't invite elderly Grandma and sent a message with her Dad (the instigator of the crime) to tell her.
They made up a story of a bigger "blessing" with a better party in the future.
The wedding vows are the important things, especially to mature people, not a noizy rave after.
Grandma was devastated and ripples went all around the family.
A few months later Grandma passed away and the guilt is still obvious.

[julian]

looks like grandma got her revenge !!

[RichardCoeurdeLion]

Flippin eck, Wendy

That is sad.

At my most recent wedding, only guests were mom, step dad, oh's daughter, oh's grandson.

I think it's different when a couple of crinklies get together.

At some social functions, the only reason I go is cus I'm not invited.